Let Justice Be Served

Just this morning, I have heard that a student was raped and murdered. I was really shocked.

For six years that I have been staying here in the University of the Philippines Los Banos, it is my first time to hear about that kind of incident. The last one happened few years ago when I was not still a college student. Then I learned the student is graduating, she lived near our house, and she was abducted just within our village. It was really sad that such thing happened, and at the same time it also serves as a caution. I used to walk alone in a dark shortcut road near our house, and sometimes I even go to the convenience store even late at night. So after hearing what happened, I realize it is not safe anymore.

I do not know what those suspects had in mind but I just hope and pray that nothing like that will ever happen again, especially in our university. It can not be prevented that we have to stay late in other friends' house for a group study. Before, there was a patrol car roaming around the village at night and at early dawn but I do not see them anymore right now.

I believe that there are still good persons in this world. I hope those type of people who have such motives will wake up and turn away from evil actions. God wants us to do good, to love one another. Let us spread peace, love, and hope. May she rest in peace and may justice be served. May the Lord God bless her family.

Let us all be careful, especially the ladies. And even the men and guys, who are sometimes victims of robbery. Let us take care of ourselves, and remember to change your routine of going home. God bless us all.

Valentine's Day Blues...

It is not true that only singles are alone during this day... There are also people who have loved ones but are not by their side. It is not easy for anyone to just sit back, relax and enjoy the moment looking at those sweet love birds who just came out of their cage, while you know you can't even experience that same excitement they had. Well, that is the sad part of being in a long distance relationship. You can not even look for a substitute date, you may but me, I would not even dare. Yet you can still have other options to ease that sadness in your eyes...

Hang out with your family. They miss you more than you do... Or you can call your friends and plan for a party at your house or outside. Spend the day without thinking that you are unlucky not to have your man around. At the end of the day, call him or chat with him. It may be a bit sad to see him but it can ease your loneliness, that somehow, it is not only you who is fighting the battle of misery. Enjoy yourselves and feel the moment, like you are face-to-face with him and distance is just a mindset.

Maybe these things will work. But mind you, there is no way that you should hide and lock yourself just because your date is not around. Love is in the air, this air may be a thousand miles away....

Art of Moving on...

Moving on seems so difficult. When you are advised by a friend to move on, it is like asking you to forget what happened...

There are moments in life, usually down and depressing times, when we have to make choices of giving up or fighting more. In a relationship where you do not know the real score, whether the two of you still have that connection or the tie is about to give up, it is not easy to decide. You still love him but you do not even know if he still loves you. It is harder if he left you because he found someone new, better than you. The more you think of it, the more painful it becomes. You can not concentrate in your studies because you want to ask what went wrong or what have you done to make him look for another. Or maybe, you will ask if he did really love you, because if he did, he would not have loved someone else.

We are just human beings, capable of committing mistakes. Maybe things are just meant to be, he was not really for you and you deserve someone else, maybe even better than him. Now, the choice is yours, it is either you move on or move on.

Don't get me wrong, it is a fact that you have no other choice. Life is like a movie but life can never be turned back. You can not step backward, mistakes can never be undo but you can correct your mistakes in other ways. They say that you have to let go of the past but is there really such thing as letting go? Maybe yes, you have to learn to let him go. Don't hold him back or don't hold on to a failed relationship because you will only suffer. Who knows, God has His own reasons for letting things happen.

Moving on sounds so plain and simple but the truth is...it is far beyond what you expect. You know, it is not that easy when you are not there or when you have been there before and now, you can't still handle it. How can you move on if you can always see his picture in your wallet or in your room? Perhaps you can remove the things that remind you of him. How can you move on when you still remember him if you eat at your favorite store or when you do the things you used to do with him? Maybe you can avoid those things. How can you move on if you can see him smiling and fine when you are bleeding and suffering? How can you ever face reality when it still hurts and the pain is just hard to forget.

The answers are acceptance and forgiveness. There are so many blessings in life that we have to be thankful and one of these is the experience. Experience is the best teacher, even how painful and harsh it may seem but it teaches us many lessons in life. It reminds us that we should learn from our mistakes. We have to accept that some things are not just for us. We have to face the challenges and wake up to a bright new day. You can not hide and avoid your fears forever, bravery is always a requirement. Moreover, you have to forgive him for hurting you and for leaving you not way you wanted. But you also have to forgive yourself for committing mistakes. It was not a mistake to love him and you should not regret that you have met him because at that time, it was all you ever wanted. He just served as a lesson for you.

Someday, when wounds are healed and tears are wiped away, you will smile when you remember him. You will laugh at how you act when he left you. You will think it was too childish to cry over. Someday, you will love yourself more and be thankful that once or many times in your life, you experience to love, get hurt and move on...

Confused Heart

Distance is just a mindset, it does not really matter at all. Is this true?

When two people wanted to be together, even though how far they are from each other or how cruel fate seems to be for them, they will cross the bounds of sacrifices and time will tell when they will meet again. Do you believe in destiny? or in soul mates? They say that if you are destined for each other, you will really be. Then how can you tell that the person with you right now is your destiny? Can you feel that he/she is the one? You may not know that after marrying that person, you happened to meet another person and you came to realize that you were wrong after all.

Such things may happen to me or to you. I once believed that if you love a person and he wants to be with someone else, then set him free. Let him have his happiness. If he comes back, then he is yours. But if not, he will never be. But now... I guess I do not believe with this anymore. Giving up and letting go may seem different from holding on but both things are so selfish.

When the world looks so vague, when the thoughts in your mind are not so clear, when you ask yourself, is this still me, what would you answer? When love was the only thing that gives you hope and now, it is the last thing that left you, can you still smile? When he was once there by your side and now, you have no one, can you move on?

Now tell me, is distance still a mindset? The bigger the distance between you and him, the bigger also the chance of forgetting.

Art of long distance relationships

Love in a specific sense, the love for the opposite sex, is too complicated that no enough description can truly explain it. Unlike a game, the relationship has no rules, only mutual understanding and commitment. Sometimes, commitment is not even there at all. When there is no commitment, you can be jealous and get hurt but you do not have the right to be angry. When the other person chooses to leave, you can wait or forget. However, if there is commitment, even when the feeling of love is gone and still you cling to that single piece of commitment for the relationship to survive, there is a greater chance of reviving the feelings and making it work again. If the other person is far from you, you have to wait because you trust that person...wait for the time to come and God will make it happen. Feelings may come and go but true love remains.

Not everyone believes in long distance relationship for it is indeed difficult to keep the lines open. Communication is very important in whatever relationship. Many believe that seeing each other and being together most of the times can help both of you know more about yourselves. You will discover more good and bad things about the other person, your compatibilities and differences. Still it is not an excuse for a long distance relationship not to work.

When you are far from each other, you will learn to trust and be faithful. Most of all, you will learn to wait and be patient. It may be very difficult and challenging but there is nothing easy in this world, all of us will encounter the tough and sad times. As they say, the roots may be bitter but the fruits will be truly sweet and fulfilling.

The test of love does not come when you are together, it comes when you are apart. You will realize that despite the distance, love still survives.

Accepting and Loving

Sometimes, we are in a crossroad of loving someone whom you can not accept a part of his life. Our parents manifest the unselfish love for us that despite our mistakes, they still accept us. In friendship, we love our friends though we can not understand some of their principles. As long as we love the person, we are willing to accept the bad along with the good. There are cases when the guy is in love with a single mother and we can not deny the fact that not all men are willing to take care the child and wife of another man. Also, we often say that we accept his whole being but we can not erase in our mind what he has done or what has happened to him before. In relationships, it is not enough that you accept him of what he is, you should also accept him of what he is not. We can not expect him to be the person that you want him to be because that is not anymore him.

Within longing and missing

I miss that day when he was so smiling sweetly while gently holding my hand... I miss his scent which I guess still lingers in my mind... I miss his cute and smiling face that made my heart jumped for joy and excitement. I miss him and I miss the girl he was loving, I mean the girl he used to love and cared for.

Those may be my thoughts three years ago when I was not still able to move on... Moving on seems so easy to say yet very difficult to do, so easy to advice to others but very hard to advice to yourself. They say that your first love is unforgettable. It is indeed true but for me it is unforgettable because I have learned to correct my mistakes through that past heartache. I have realized that hurt and pain are not that bad after all. You may think that the world has turned its back on you when you felt your greatest heartache but you may not be aware that the heaven is only making a way for you to experience the real happiness.

I am happy for the sweet things happening to me. I must thank him for teaching me the lessons I never expected, may it be bitter or sweet...I must also thank him for hurting me because I might not have met this person I truly value now if he had not done it. Today, I miss this guy who wiped my tears and made me realize how beautiful it is to love and be loved. He may be far away physically but I know that he will always be with me, with my heart.

Love Life!

Each day is a wonderful gift given to us. We are given opportunities and take experiences which will make us better individuals. We may encounter nice days which will make us smile. Yet, there are also times that we can not even laugh and just be teary-eyed. Sadly, depression makes us very vulnerable beings.
When problems just pour down on our lives, we may think of ways on how to overcome these situations. But for those who were defeated, they take the most regrettable escape, SUICIDE. These people tend to hide their feelings of being down because of their own reasons, some just want to show off and some are just afraid. Can we blame them? They are indeed troubled and could not think rationally. Undoubtedly, they need help.
Sharing your problems and talking to significant persons lessen the burdens that you carry. You are relieved of the fact that in the battle that you undertake, these chums will definitely render their company and support. Resorting to professionals who can expertly handle such circumstances is also a good option to take.
Surely, you can find answers to each difficulty that arises. Each time darkness comes, light follows. God never gives us problems that we can’t deal with. That is why He bestowed us with tomorrows. Love life!

String of Heart

Love is so simple yet very complicated. Loving someone is more complicated. The art of loving a person can not be described in a single phrase or thousand of words but the heart of that person only knows thing, to beat. In every kind of feeling, the heart has its own way of talking. When you are in pain, you will know that the heart is bleeding because of the constrictions it does and it makes you cry, tears from the eyes or from the inside. It is like how they describe in poems, it feels like your heart is being torn into pieces. The moment you cry, shout or burst out the pain through words or actions, you ease the burden in your heart and the pain is slowly fading, so slowly that you do not even know when it will totally fade. Maybe that is why heartbeats are just three ways, one is normal, two is fast like when you feel an extreme emotion, and three is… it does not beat anymore.

They say that we should take care of our heart. Love wisely and carefully. However, it is always easier said than done. They advised you to take good care of your heart because they have been there and they can not advise themselves. At first, it is usually sweet and wonderful with the notion that they say, if time can only be stopped there and then or wishing that they will not wake up from that exquisite dream. Time will pass and tears will fall…tears of happiness, confusion, enjoyment, and sadness. You may tend to blame your heart for loving the wrong way or the wrong person yet you do not even understand that the heart only knows how to beat, it does not even choose the situation for you.

Despite everything, we as human still continue to love and fly again. Surf through the vast ocean of love. Our hearts are very important. In our happiest and saddest moments, these have felt it all… Again, take good care of your heart and express what you feel, do not hide it inside for you will never know when it will be full and it will definitely burst. You only have one heart so treasure it.

Love your heart.